Tuesday, March 18, 2008

What Kind of Parent Are You?

I cried for the first time tonight in a very long time and the tears were not of joy! I cried for two young boys and their innocence.
I have looked after a young boy in my son's class now for two weeks. I have him from 11 Am until 6 Pm. I do it for no money, no trades, just because I wanted good mommy juju in this universe because I know I will need help one day i.e. going to back to school. Karma!
Well I had to end it tonight. I did it with tears in my eyes while I looked this mother of two in her drugged up face. This woman has no sense of responsibility, no compassion, no fucking clue what it means to be an adult, let alone a mother of two young boys struggling in this world.
I have really enjoyed having this kid every day.
This little boy had a lot of firsts in the last two weeks. He had never been to a local park. He never gets ice cream, he never gets the attention I have given him. I debated about my decision tonight because I know that this little guy needs a family like ours to let him know what normal is. But his mom showed up 40 minutes late for the fifth night in a row because she was at home getting high.
She's a mess and now I'm in the middle of a mess. I have to help these boys. Unfortunately, it will involve child services.
I'm scared for these kids and their future. The oldest boy is only 8 and I've never met a more angry child in my life. The youngest goes from happy to sad in one second when I take him home. When I took them home one night last week, they refused to let me walk them to their apartment. I later found out there was nobody home when I left them. Their mom assured me someone would be there to keep after them. It was 6:30 Pm. The oldest boy is 8! I would have never forgiven myself if something would have happened to them.
I can't help all the children living like this, but I will sure as hell try and help these two boys. Their mom needs help too. She needs to get clean and be a mother!
It's ironic. I went into this situation selfish. I wanted mommy karma. In the end I might be the karma for two innocent little boys and their mom.

2 comments:

Reba said...
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Reba said...

Esperanza, that is so sad and you have such a big heart. Having CPS involved is for the best; these boys deserve better and if that means without their mom, well I guess that is her choice if she decides to not get clean.

Hang in there and if you need any help let me know.