To work or not to work, that is the question...

I recently caught an episode of a new reality show on TLC. It is called "The Secret Life Of A Soccer Mom". The premise is a week in the life of the career you gave up to stay home. The twist is you do it in secret; your family thinks that you won a week at the spa. Odd I know. Well, without much shock it has sparked some serious backlash from mothers everywhere. While I have no problem with the actual premise, the secretness of it leaves me a little uncomfortable.

But it does raise a interesting question. Why do woman divide themselves? Why do we condemn stay at home mothers or working mothers? The backlash would not be there is we didn't have such high emotions toward one or the other. I will tell you I do not think one is better than the other. The personal choice woman make is individual and should not be judged.

Being a working mother I have recieved my share of hurtful comments, some from friends, some from family and some from complete strangers. And let me say the ones judging are mainly woman. Why do we do this? If you are one of these woman, STOP IT. Motherhood is hard enough, let us all live our lives with support and respect. And if you get the urge to tell someone what you think about their life, keep your mouth shut and remember the cardinal rule "If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all."