Letter to my body,

I am writing this letter because we are suffering from some major communication issues. I talk, you don't listen, and I realize I have to be patient but there is only so much I can take. You and I have had the longest lasting relationship in my life and yet we still can't meet eye to eye. But to really put this lifelong issue into perspective, we have to go back, way back. I believe it all started when I was 10, and my mom and dad had just finished their biggest keepin' up with the Jones' project and built us a pool. And of course, you have to put a momentous occasion like that into pictures, and there you and I were, 10 years old, and our relationship began and not in such a good way. I have since burned the picture and have put a secret hex on it so that anyone who recalls that picture will feel like sharp needles are being stuck in their eye. Flash forward, to 7th grade, me and my "boyfriend" at the time, technically he just asked me to "go with him," whatever that means. But nonetheless, we were making out on our trampoline, and there you were, bringing out the granny panties. No one told me that you had to always wear cute panties, just like the saying goes, or maybe that's clean panties, now I am confused. I forgave you for that, sort of. But what I can't forgive you for is all the damn pictures you showed up in, what is so hard about making me look good, really, isn't that what friends are for. And honestly, when we are shopping, why do you have to make it so difficult, don't you know the kind of looks we got when we shopped for those fashion items that were just not made for us.
But its time I be realistic, and really address the changes that need to be made in our relationship. And by doing that I can no longer just look at what your inadequacies are, and look at mine.
I have never really appreciated you, I have never put you first, I have never stopped blaming you for all the things that went wrong or could go wrong. I have taken toxic potentially hazardous things to make our relationship better. I have compared you to every other person I see. I have thought about drastic measures to make it better.
What do I do now, honestly, I can make promises to you that I may or may not fulfill. But really, I also have to give myself some credit, I have worked so hard--and I get nothing. I have shed a million tears, and where is my damn sympathy? Where is the change?
I would like to be like the rest of the world and say I appreciate you and through it all, you have been there, and we are a team, BLAH BLAH BLAH.
When will I really feel like you are there for me? I fear so much about our future, I fear we will not be able to be a strong as I want us to be? I have seen so many similar relationships destroyed, and they had the healthiest relationship you could ever imagine.
I have to love you, we are stuck together for life, and I will continue to work hard to make it right, but I need you to do your part, if I work hard, you have to do the same and I want real changes, not any more half-assed excuses, and in the end all I want is for us to have beauty and happiness, that's not too much to ask for.

Sincerely,
Me
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